A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.
Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.
Zero stars While I do recognize that Esther Perel is a famous therapist, the author backs up her hypothesis with her patients’ experiences and most of them are completely out of the ordinary. I will cite one single example of the many this book has. Certain men have difficulty expressing their interest and love to women (what a surprise), and this guy could not maintain relationships because of this until he found a japanese (or chinese woman). They fell in love and it worked out so well precisely…
On loving and sexuality A friend asked me why he found sex with his wife “routine”. He said he loved his wife and having sex with her still felt good, but he didn’t feel “turned on”. Instead, he found himself fantasizing about sex with other women. This book answers that question completely and helps one explore the contradictions and congruity of love and sexuality.
bought three; handed them out like Bible tracts Got to this book late and am I glad for it. When it came out I was newly remarried and didn’t need and wouldn’t have heard the message. But seven years into a mid-life marriage I needed tips on answering Ester Perel’s Big Question (from her excellent TED Talk): Can you want what you already have? Her answer seemed to be as I read: Sure you can. But it’s work. And you better understand what’s going on first.Add to this that my whole arousal system of mind, body, soul and sex is…